Holding On and Letting Go: Real Resolutions for the New Year

Like most of you, I make a list of resolutions that I painstakingly attempt to keep throughout the new year. Some involve cutting bad habits like procrastinating, others involve developing good ones like eating healthy. Of course New Year’s resolutions are hard to keep, some more than ¬†others, but there are some that everyone can follow that will make it easier to stick to all the rest. Here are Miss Perspective’s real resolutions for the 2015!



This is hard. Probably the hardest of them all. In my short 20 years, the one thing I learned to do early is this. I found a way, as will you, to recognize the awesome power of the skin I am in. Your body can do things that other’s can’t and it is pointless to constantly berate it. Take care of it. Don’t deprive yourself. Eat chocolate, within reason. Wear a maxi dress that doesn’t cover your birthmark or your body art. Sleep for hours so your body can rest. Stare at that one attribute you don’t like and find something good about it. Tall, short, curvy, skinny,red-head, brunette, freckled, scarred, black or white it doesn’t matter. You are you and that is a remarkable thing.

P.S. I like to stand in the mirror in the morning and list 20 things I like about myself. It actually works. Start with 5 if you have to, but I guarantee it will help.

  1. CARE

By this I mean, do something for someone other than yourself and if you have no sense of compassion, then develop one; quick, fast, in-a-hurry. There are too many callous people in the world and not enough compassionate ones. The Beatles said it best, “Love is All You Need”, so I challenge you to show some to someone else, preferably someone you don’t already know.



Breakups, bad times, challenges, forget them. If you can’t put a positive spin on something in the past, leave it there. If someone hurt you, that is their problem not yours. If something went completely wrong, do what you can. Laughter is healthy, tears are not. Being in your feelings can only go on for so long. give yourself one good cry and then release that pain. You won’t attract much good if you’re too busy worrying about the bad.

  1. DO YOU

Don’t compare yourself to other people. Sometimes you may feel as if you’re not doing as well as someone else or that your best just wasn’t good enough. I’ll tell you a secret. You are exactly where you are supposed to be. I’ll be a corny, English major and say this, do not compare your chapter 2 to someone else’s chapter 20. The person next to you is not writing the same story as you are. That being said, it’s okay to model yourself, somewhat, after someone that you admire, but at the end of the day, the only person you should worry about comparing yourself to is your old self.


I don’t necessarily mean that you have to be like me and go to London, but something small like trying a new food, or taking a different route to class or work will prove beneficial. The beginning of a New Year is the perfect time to try something that you haven’t. Do yoga or take a dance class. Order Indian instead of Chinese.Wear a different color, try a new restaurant, travel somewhere you haven’t before. I assure you, you’ll thank yourself later.



I know this is hard. I find myself stressing about things just as much as you do. It’s hard. We want to do well and we don’t want to disappoint people. But guess what? The only thing it does, is darken your mood and when it’s over what have you accomplished? So this year if something happens, take a deep breath and do what you can. If it doesn’t work out, just remember that tomorrow is another day.

That’s all for now. Thank you all for reading. Here’s to new perspectives and a new year!

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